I am speechless. That you took the time to write all of this to just help one other mom to see through it. To help a mom you don't know to help herself and her son. Okay, so maybe I am a sap, but you kindness brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so very much.
Devra Renner
· 3 years ago
Excellent advice! Putting a plan in place for the future helps to fend off the guilt. There are some things that really do need to cross over into adulthood, such as "do-overs"... and naps. Truth be told, I actually think a lot of grown ups might embrace the idea of using a bib because dry cleaning ties and blouses can get pretty pricey! ; )
drumsnwhistles
· 3 years ago
Jenn, you're most welcome! My son was 5 when he was diagnosed. We looked for reasons that I could not seem to do anything other than constantly yell at him! I seriously thought I was going to raise a kid who would hate me for life, so I totally understand the guilt part.
I hope you'll post updates -- I know there are victories around the corner for you and your kids!
Devra, Welcome! I just had a peek at your site and love it. Thanks so much for the comments. I agree totally on the bib thing...it should be as required as shoes in public places.
DnW
Devra Renner
· 3 years ago
DnW, My pleasure! Just happy to see such a terrific post from one mom to another to help get that Mommy Guilt relief goin'. In our book we tried to do the same thing, just be an encouraging voice to help parents realize they are not alone and their gut is also there to help guide them, not just all that expert mumbo jumbo. After all, Aviva and I are moms too, we have read tons of parenting books and we knew most of them begin with the idea that parents have already messed up in some way or another. We want to tell parents "Hey, you are doing better than you might think or give yourself credit for." Some days MOM stands for My Own Martini!
liz
· 3 years ago
The other thing I'd urge parents to do is document, document, document. Why? If your child has an IEP or a 504 plan, as your child progresses towards college (assuming college is in your family's educational plan) your relationship will expand from the school to The College Board--ah yes, the SATs.
The best current guides* to the documentation process are:
A Parent's guide to special education, by Linda Wilmshurst and Alan w. Brue, ISBN 0-8144-7283-4
and
Nolo's IEP Guide: Learning Disabilities, by Lawrence M. Siegel, ISBN 1-41330-422-2
A free and wonderful source of information on special education law can be found at Wrightslaw,
If your child's educational profile is such that reading is slow (for whatever reason) see if your child qualifies for recorded texts from Recordings for the Blind and Dyslexic,
Many folk with ADHD have memory and/or processing speed issues that affect reading speed and comprehension. Reading a text while listening may improve comprehension.
As a parent of a child with learning disabilities, you have a special interest in knowing what is in your child's school records. This is true because of the significant information these records offer you about your child and also because of the emphasis schools place on these records when making educational decisions. If any information in your child's records is inaccurate, biased, incomplete, or inconsistent, this material may well result in inaccurate decisions regarding your child's right to special education services. For these reasons you must know how to obtain, interpret, and correct these records and how to use them effectively in school meetings. This article will give you an overview of your rights to your child’s records.
drumsnwhistles
· 3 years ago
Thanks, Liz! To all reading this post and comments, you should subscribe to I Speak of Dreams, Liz' blog. She's a terrific resource for information, links, and discussion about learning disabilities, ADHD and many other issues confronting kids and parents today.
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I hope you'll post updates -- I know there are victories around the corner for you and your kids!
Devra, Welcome! I just had a peek at your site and love it. Thanks so much for the comments. I agree totally on the bib thing...it should be as required as shoes in public places.
DnW
My pleasure! Just happy to see such a terrific post from one mom to another to help get that Mommy Guilt relief goin'. In our book we tried to do the same thing, just be an encouraging voice to help parents realize they are not alone and their gut is also there to help guide them, not just all that expert mumbo jumbo. After all, Aviva and I are moms too, we have read tons of parenting books and we knew most of them begin with the idea that parents have already messed up in some way or another. We want to tell parents "Hey, you are doing better than you might think or give yourself credit for." Some days MOM stands for My Own Martini!
The best current guides* to the documentation process are:
A Parent's guide to special education, by Linda Wilmshurst and Alan w. Brue, ISBN 0-8144-7283-4
and
Nolo's IEP Guide: Learning Disabilities, by Lawrence M. Siegel, ISBN 1-41330-422-2
A free and wonderful source of information on special education law can be found at Wrightslaw,
http://www.wrightslaw.com/
If your child's educational profile is such that reading is slow (for whatever reason) see if your child qualifies for recorded texts from Recordings for the Blind and Dyslexic,
http://www.rfbd.org/
Many folk with ADHD have memory and/or processing speed issues that affect reading speed and comprehension. Reading a text while listening may improve comprehension.
http://www.schwablearning.org/Articles.asp?r=861
As a parent of a child with learning disabilities, you have a special interest in knowing what is in your child's school records. This is true because of the significant information these records offer you about your child and also because of the emphasis schools place on these records when making educational decisions. If any information in your child's records is inaccurate, biased, incomplete, or inconsistent, this material may well result in inaccurate decisions regarding your child's right to special education services. For these reasons you must know how to obtain, interpret, and correct these records and how to use them effectively in school meetings. This article will give you an overview of your rights to your child’s records.
DnW